The Joy Of Missing Out
The Joy Of Missing Out
There was a time we were so busy and running all over the place… For different reasons and with diverse motives of course, but then providence put a halt to these activities yet we are still pushing ourselves to be busy!
Before this worldwide pandemic, a lot of people complained they couldn’t spend time with their family because they have to go to work… They couldn’t afford to sit and meditate on God’s word because they have stuffs to do. I’m not judging, but what I still can’t fathom is how all our appointments have been suspended and yet we are finding other things to fill in the slots. It’s almost as if, we think our value is based on how busy we are💁♀️
You can’t be everywhere at the same time and you can’t be everything at the same time and you can’t do everything at the same time.
We are hearing such loud noises and ideas and opinions about what to do and how to do it and how to stay productive and how to add value; we are almost losing ourselves once again in this cycle of busyness even though we are “StayingAtHome.”
It basically looks like there is a competition about who is doing this COViD experience better. Almost as if we have to show a report card at the end of the isolation to show how much we did get done.
If you are not taking online classes or learning a new skill or attending a webinar or hosting one, you start feeling this subtle and sometimes intense pressure that you are missing out on a great opportunity.
Opportunity to acquire more and more and more… It’s exhausting.
Before this period, I had to wake up early, prepare for work, prepare my family for the day, and then sleep late because I was trying to prepare for the next day. I did all these with joy but I know I secretly wished we could all get a break and just rest. So, now that there is a subtle break, how about I decide to sleep in and not feel guilty about it? How about I take a whole week to do whatever I want and not feel like I’m missing out on something special? Is that too much to ask?
How about I do the things I actually love doing but won’t necessarily fetch me fame or fund?
I would love to let my hair down and reflect on my past and with hopeful eyes look forward to the future and wait for the salvation of my Lord.
I wanna actually be there with my children and not make them feel like they are unavoidable distractions all the time!!! I want to play with them, sing with them, pray with them, cook with them, wash with them. I’ll like to create memories that will transcend this time. I don’t want just my body at home while my soul is somewhere else … Spirit, soul and body; For once in probably a lifetime, I wanna be there for my loved ones.
A shoulder to lean on(not physically) and a patient listening ears. I would like to experience the joy of missing out on the busy schedules and take time to have joy in simply Be-ing.
I know the world might change after this pandemic goes and you are probably just trying to catch up with the envisaged shift, but what about the change happening with your children that you’ve been oblivious to because of so much work? What about the change occurring between you and your spouse? The distance between you guys have been widening even before the era of social distancing due to busyness; what about this change?
What about the change happening within you?
I’m going to focus on the things that really do matter to me and the things that make me truly happy. I’m not gonna numb out my feelings with activities or engage in the pursuit of the endless goals. I’ve been doing it all my life, it isn’t as satisfying as I thought.
After one goal comes another, then another, then another… It’s always going to be that way. But once in a while; like this while; I love to truly take a moment and appreciate how far God has brought me and take my time to truly enjoy his blessings. My family, the singing birds, the beautiful starry night sky, the lovely sunrise, studying God’s word without the pressure of getting late for work.
This time is Precious. I’ll rather enjoy the bliss of missing out on the “In vogue busyness” than lose myself in this competition of who is doing it better; all in the fear of missing out or being left behind. It’s my own pilgrims Journey and no one else’s.
Ecclesiastes 9:7-10 [The message version]
Seize life! Eat bread with gusto,
Drink wine with a robust heart.
Oh yes—God takes pleasure in your pleasure!
Dress festively every morning.
Don’t skimp on colors and scarves.
Relish life with the spouse you love
Each and every day of your precarious life.
Each day is God’s gift. It’s all you get in exchange for the hard work of staying alive.
Make the most of each one!
Whatever turns up, grab it and do it. And heartily!
This is your last and only chance at it,
For there’s neither work to do nor thoughts to think
In the company of the dead, where you’re most certainly headed.