Real Reason A Christian Single should avoid unequal yoking in marriage
As Christian singles, we would have heard it several times that we can’t afford to be unequally yoked in marriage with an unbeliever, but today, I will like to share with us one reason that I found out recently about this unequal yoking.
INCEPTION OF UNEQUAL YOKING
Being yoked together is a word that the farmers are very familiar with. When you are using animals to plough a field, you will put a wooden object around the neck of two oxen to join them together so that both oxen can move at the same pace and do the work together. That wooden object joining the two oxen is what is called a yoke.
One ox can’t do it alone. You need two but they need to be of equal heights. If they are of different heights, the purpose would be defeated because the yoke will be lopsided. That will be unequal looking.
A LOPSIDED UNDERSTANDING OF UNEQUAL YOKING
Most of the times, singles base this lopsided requirement on social class, educational achievement, bank statement and even looks. But the unequal yoking that is important to your journey to eternity is that of belief.
Is the person you want to marry a believer? And if yes what does he believe in? Do you believe in the same thing? If not, that is unequal yoking.
There are several believers out there and I am not talking about other religions, I am talking about “Christianity”. Does he believe in holiness and righteousness? Does he believe that a soul that sins will perish even if that person once confessed Jesus as His Lord? Does He believe that the word of God supersedes his traditions?
DANGER OF UNEQUAL YOKING
If as a genuine child of God, you are in love with someone that answers No to these questions then it is an unequal yoking and it is very dangerous. Being in love may blind your eyes now and all you see will be the perfections of this unbelieving man, but when the veil of the first in love feeling wanes off, you will have to deal with the constant and unexpected disagreements or you might just need to agree with his own ideologies so that peace may reign in your home.
This kind of peace, however, leads to eternal damnation because you have veered off the path of life.
REASON NOT TO BE UNEQUALLY YOKED WITH AN UNBELIEVER
We all know that whether married or single, this world is not our own and we are leaving this place someday soon. However, marriage is supposed to make our journey towards heaven a little bit easier because two of better than one. But if you are unequally yoked this will be difficult. As you are making progress someone is gonna be dragging you backwards with the weight of sin.
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The Bible says to set our affections on things above and not on things on the earth (Colossians 3:2) because where your treasure is that is where your heart will be. An unbeliever has no treasure in heaven as he won’t be keen every moment about going back home. He is going to be earthly minded.
So, if you are unequally yoked with someone who is never prepared for the rapture, how can you run the race together? Can two walk together except they be agreed? (Amos 3:3)
Once you are yoked together with a man in marriage, both of you will have to agree about your destination and move in that direction. Are you going to heaven or hell? If you can’t agree, then you will be stuck in one position (this world; which is getting destroyed by the way) unless through divine intervention.
REVEALING THE REASONS FOR UNEQUAL YOKING WITH AN UNBELIEVER
So, I ask you today, “why are you in an unequal yoke relationship with a man as a single sister?”
Did he promise you marriage? That is definitely going to be the nail on the coffin sending you to a lifetime of regrets.
He is rich? When your time is up in this world, you will take nothing with you to your eternal destination.
He is handsome? Beauty is deceitful dear sister. It will fade away with time and it will definitely be useless after death.
Does he promise to believe later? Now is the day of salvation. If he is putting a date to it, can you put a date on the rapture?
You feel no one is going to marry you if you let him go? Seek ye out of the book of the LORD, and read: no one of these shall fail, none shall want her mate: for my mouth it hath commanded, and his spirit it hath gathered them.
You are in love with one another? The love that is going to lead you to eternal damnation is definitely not from God. God didn’t redeem you with Hos precious blood only to give you away to an unbeliever.
THE SIMPLE AND PLAIN REPERCUSSION OF UNEQUAL YOKING IN MARRIAGE
As we are aware, there is more to marriage than sex. There is a need for a friendship that will last beyond the honeymoon and for friendship to flourish you must have a common ground. Will Calvary be your common ground? Or will it be social class and taste in dresses and wine?
Being in a marriage relationship with someone who is not keen towards going back to heaven is going to slow you down or change your direction altogether. That is the result of unequal yoking.
Don’t let your emotions fog hour judgement and throw you down a path of inequality that might take forever to get balanced.
Get out of that unequal yoking now before the knot is tied. God is more than able to give you are man that will love you and journey home back to heaven with you.