Payback Is Now!!
We are the investment-keen generation who saw our Parents struggle with Children education and basic necessities of life and we promised that that won’t be us. We make conscious decisions everyday to build businesses and make investments while we are still young so that by the time we are in our 40’s we will not be stranded and our children will have it better and easier than we did.
This is obviously true and wise and very noble. But I want to call our attention to something very important. When do you plan to pay back?
I’m sure in your mind you are thinking, “pay who back? Who do I owe?”
While you may think you are more prudent than your parents were when they were your age, which may be true, but I will like to tell you right now that you are a beautiful product from that life that seemingly lacked “planning for the future.”
Out of their “foolishness”, we were clothed and fed; it may not have been the latest clothes but it did keep us warm. In their scarcity they bestowed their all to us and gave us what they taught was the best, “Education;” it may have just been grammar schools and community schools or federal higher institutions (And you had to write JAMB so many times before you could gain admission). But we are where we are now because they gave us their best and their all.
In their Penury they provided shelter. It might not have been a first-class or even third-class accommodation but we were kept safe. They were no generators to power the house while you read, but they made sure there was little Kerosene remaining in the lantern for you to use.
So, you could sit by the lantern at night and study Biology and Accounting and Mathematics past questions for WAEC.
Since they couldn’t afford a fancy alarm clock to wake you up to study, they became your ever-present alarm to wake you up in the night to study.
The melody of the alarm might have been something like; “Bimpe you have slept enough oo… Stand up and read. And probably accompanied with a recitation of “A little sleep a little slumber” but it worked didn’t it?😁
What about the bowl of water to immerse your feet in so you wouldn’t ward off sleep?
Do you know why they did all these? So you would be better than they were. So, you would not suffer the things they did. So that your children (their grandchildren) will have a better life.
And thank God, things are looking up for you. Their efforts paid off.
There may be times it crosses your mind that you could have gone farther if they had put some things in place, but I challenge you to think that you might not have come this far at all if not for the sacrifices they made as well.
So I ask you again now, when do you plan to pay back?
Because, while you think they had no foresight or plan for the future, you will be forgetting that YOU are their investments. YOU are the empire they used the strength of their youth to build. This good life you have now and the future you are planning for is a result of their foresight. They LIVED for YOU.
So, when do you plan to payback? After you are done investing? After you are done creating chains of businesses? After you’ve made a name for yourself in the world? Or probably when you start receiving interests off your investments?
If you are in your late 20’s or 30’s, it is likely these wonderful people that Loaned you their life without interest are in their late 50’s and 60’s already. How long before you give them dividends for the service they did for 20years and more?
In the next 10 – 15 years, they might have no need for your fancy Lace materials and hollandaise Ankara again. Because they would have no event to wear it to and because they wouldn’t have pleasure in “showing off” again.
Don’t keep the jeep until the only place they go to is Sunday Service. When their body aches so much, they would rather have the driver take the househelp to market than go with the car by themselves. Don’t postpone sending them money until when they have no need for it again except to dash the less privileged living in their area.
Payback should be now, please. You may think you had it so hard while growing up because they didn’t create opportunities for you while they were younger; but really, they thought they were doing better than their own parents. Just like are thinking now. And really, they did better, because, look at you!!! You are better than they were.
Now is not the time to shift blame or wait till you have more than enough. If you keep waiting, it will be too late. It is now that they can enjoy a comfy mattress; it is now that they can enjoy eating skinless chicken; it is now that they can drive their car to the market and give their friends a lift on the way; it is now that they have weddings and ceremonies to attend where they can show off their new clothes and designer purses and wristwatches.
Even though you are on the “Just sufficient” part of the scale, still share it with them. Don’t linger until the time that you are able to give your parents without feeling the impact in your purse.
They used 25years of their working life to serve you and provide for you; giving them 8℅ of your earnings could never repay your debt but it will surely put unspeakable joy in their hearts.
To the sisters; don’t be that lady that discourages her husband from taking good care of his mother or father, just because you don’t get along well with your mother in law. They laboured over him one way or another just like yours did over you.
Don’t wait any longer to receive the blessings of heaven. Payback should be Now!!!
Honour thy father and thy mother, as the LORD thy God hath commanded thee; that thy days may be prolonged, and that it may go well with thee, in the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.