My Happiness should be his responsibility, Right?
My happiness should be his responsibility, Right?
A lady could go into marriage, thinking that, her happiness should be the priority and responsibility of her husband. How is this working out so far?
Not so well I’m sure. It’s a shocker. Because really, putting the burden of your happiness on the shoulders of another mortal is too much of a burden, really.
Should the husband care about the happiness of his wife? Absolutely. A godly man that loves his wife desires that she is happy but is it his total responsibility? I don’t think so. Because happiness is a choice.
No matter how hard your husband tries to make you happy, he will still fail you somehow because he is still human and still capable of making mistakes; making a bad judgement call or making a wrong investment or could even be unhappy with you over something!
This type of expectation from a man like yourself has ed to bitterness for so many. But it doesn’t have to continue.
You can wake up today and say “The joy of the Lord is my strength.” Make a choice to look at the good things in your life and be happy. Make a choice to focus on the good things/traits in your husband and choose gratitude instead of bitterness.
Your happiness is always going to come down to your choice. Because even if your spouse tries his best to make your happiness his priority, he can still fail when life comes kicking in and all his plans are turned upside down.
Choose Joy instead of sadness. Choose laughter instead of gloom. Choose gratitude instead of complaints. You are not alone in your struggles and it’s not everyone you see smiling that has the perfect husband who makes them happy 24/7. We’ve all got to make a choice.
Don’t always wear a scowl on your face that reads “We would have all been happy if only your father is making me happy,” for your children to see. You are passively teaching them that they have no choice when it comes to being happy.
When the going gets tough (And it certainly gets tough sometimes), climb up in prayer to the rock that is higher than you and let the everlasting arms carry you. Your husband isn’t perfect but neither are you.
When we lift up this burden of expectation from their shoulders, life becomes more fun and adventurous. Your husband will be freer to live and laugh and create wonderful memories with you because he won’t have to tiptoe around you as if he’s walking on eggshells that could break at any time. Forgiving one another becomes easier too.
Dear daughter of Zion, you are stronger than you think. Kick out negative and critical thoughts and replace them with the truth of God’s word. Look around you and be grateful for what you do have and on darker days when doing that is so hard, remember that you are still on a Pilgrims Journey; there will be light at the end if you keep carrying the cross of your faith. There will be joy eternal in the land beyond the sun where there will be no sighing or weeping.
Remember, this world is not your final abode or destination and takes courage. You’ve got a choice. We all do. Let us choose wisely; the world is reading us as their bible. Choose Joy.
I call heaven and earth to record this day against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life, that both thou and thy seed may live: