We’ve all got 24hours in every day and whether you like it or not, that’s all you are ever going to have. Just 24hours every day. But is it enough?
Sometimes, we are busy partitioning our days and activities and writing to-do lists and then beating up ourselves when we end not meeting up with the expectation. Our own expectation and that of other people. As if we are living for the approval of others.
While I was in the university, I had a sweet roommate who wasn’t taking good care of herself because there was just so much to read, and she will tell me, “Sister Bimpe, I don’t have time.” I always had a reply for her. Nevertheless, before we talk about that reply, let’s forward to the present.
Recently, I realised I have started reciting my room mate’s line (smiles). I thought within myself that it is because I have more responsibilities now. How true is this? Is it the responsibilities or am I expecting too much of myself?
As a lover of simple living, it was a huge burden to carry. I love to try my best all the time and just leave it at that. Not more not less. Just my best. But here I what you have probably not realised like me, with the pressure of ‘Oh I don’t have time; time is not enough; I wish I had more time’ comes the endless cycle of feeling bad at the end of every day.
At night I would start to question the choices I made during the day. Maybe I should have read that book instead of doing laundry. Maybe I should have reached out to that friend instead of spending time with my daughter playing. Maybe I should have spent time blogging instead of sleeping. It was a roller coaster that was draining me of joy and peace. And I knew I had to stop this self-inflicted distress.
Will the time ever be enough to do all that I need to do? To be all that I want to be?
Unawares, a miracle happened one day… Guess what it was?
I remembered what I used to tell my roommate. It came like a light that dispelled every shadow of a doubt. A power that lifted the pressure I was mindlessly putting on myself. It was a soothing ocean breeze that calmed my racing heart. I felt alive once more. I could stand more upright. And most importantly, I could lay down at night without guilt that I didn’t accomplish all I wanted to accomplish that day.
So here is what I used to tell my roommate whenever she started complaining that time is not enough…
I would say… “Bunky… 24hour is enough. In the 24hours, there is time to eat, time to pray, time to study my Bible, time to visit anyone in the fellowship that needed a visit, time to read my books, time to listen to a friend who really needed me, time to go to fellowship with the brethren and there is time to sleep”
It may seem strange but it worked for me. So, I had to sit down and think about where I am getting it all wrong or twisted.
Does this idea only help as a university student? Will this mentality help me now that I have more responsibilities?
What do we do with our limited 24hours?
Yes, it will. Responsibilities may have increased enormously but it still the same Me and the same God that I answer to at the end of every day.
I don’t need more time, I only need to fill the one I have with things that really matter to Me and matters to God. And to never feel remorse if I couldn’t finish other tasks whenever I chose those two things first.
If you are always thinking that you need more time, you will end up putting unnecessary pressure on yourself. Some may work better under pressure. I don’t. Your God knows you have just 24hours in every day before giving you the responsibilities you have. Do the one’s that are important to God and to you.
If you can’t do others now, maybe you can do it later if God gives you the grace to.
The 24hours in every day is enough to do all you wanna do and to be all that you need to be. That is all we are going to get because that is all we need.
Stop beating up yourself with to-do lists (I know they help us to stay on track) but give yourself some credit after a long day. Make a choice. Make it for God and make it for You and don’t let anyone make you feel less because you chose to do the things that do matter to you.
There is enough time for all we are appointed to do. There is enough time to enjoy the spouse of our youth. Enough time to teach our children in the ways of the Lord. Enough time to help a brethren who is falling. Enough time to smile and play. Enough time chase after God and his commissions.
We will always have 24hours. Fill it with beautiful memories. Recognise your human limit (I am not a superwoman and I won’t pretend to be. I have limits) and accept the grace of God to do all you possibly can.
I may not be able to do all I set out to do each day, but I will sleep without guilt. The time I am given is enough for the responsibilities I am given. One thing at a time, it will all get done. God knows it is enough. I accept that it is enough.