Seems like we got the shorter end of the stick?
God commanded that women should be keepers at home (home keepers), to love their husbands and love their children and to be submissive and that the men should love their wives and provide for their homes. There is a lot of noise going on in the world to rebel against this order of God. They clone their speech in women liberation. They say the ways of the Lord is unfair (God forbid) to women and that probably that commandment is not for this generation.
Well, our God is same yesterday, today and forevermore. If the compilation of the whole Bible spanned thousands of years, written by several authors of different occupations, and all pointed towards the same Person (Christ), I don’t think God has changed His mind in the recent 2000years just because the heart of man has grown more wicked.
But did we actually get the shorter end of the stick? And the men got the longer end with more ease? I don’t think so.
I think God placed each of us in the task which He designed us to do. Both male and female were designed differently by God. Emotionally and physically, we are different.Whether a woman is Spirit-controlled or not, we are more emotional. And that is probably why the serpent went to appeal to Eve’s emotions and not Adam.
I do not believe that the serpent approached Eve because she was jobless, everything was perfect in Eden.
And before you say it, God didn’t make any mistake in His designs (God forbid), he gave us all these tenderness and emotions because of the task of mothering and nurturing. He wanted us to give birth and show amazing love and care so that we may reflect the Love and Care that God has for us.
Because later God would say, even if a woman should forget her suckling child (which is hard to imagine; as a mother I find it hard to imagine. But even if she does) He will never forget us.
After the fall, both Adam and Eve each received different punishments other than the general one. Each curse seems to be unique. The curse of a woman pertained to her duty of being a mother and a wife and that of the man was towards him being the provider for the home.
This kind of showed us that even from the advent of time, our duties have been clear. But the serpent is back again. Just like he cunningly deceived Eve, he is trying to deceive us one more time.
Here are some of his traps;
“Has God said you can only be a mother and a wife?”
“Look inside you, you have all these amazing talents and strength and grace?”
“In fact, you can be in the ministry. You can be up and doing winning souls for God in every city”
“This is no longer the 15th century. See what women are doing? They are pilots flying planes? What about you?
” In fact, I think you can be so much more; you don’t just have to be a wife and a mother. You can be the provider too”
The provider too.
That is where the trouble all started. Because we were trying to be both home keepers and providers at the same time. Now, some women are put in this position and have this responsibility thrust upon them because of the demise (or incapacity) of a husband or the irresponsibility of one. I pray the Lord will send help to such women in Jesus name.
But ab initio, we weren’t meant to be both the home keeper and the providers as well. If a woman foes decide to get married, her primary duty is to keep the home. Teaching her children the ways of the Lord. Loving our husbands and helping them in areas where help is needed. Every other thing is secondary and should be treated as such. Career, business and even our so-called “ministry.”
The lies of the devil only have one motive, “get the home keepers away from their duty posts” so he can have access to both the men and the children and later, frustration will definitely drive the home keeper into his net.
“Entice them with gold and silver and relevance and a seat at the high table. After all, they love shiny things just like Eve.”
I challenge us to disappoint the serpent. Let us quit being the daughters of Eve and be the daughters of Sarah as the bible says we are. Cultivate inner beauty, the gentle and the gracious kind that God delights in. The holy women of old were beautiful before God that way and were good, loyal wives to their husbands. Sarah, for instance, taking care of Abraham, would address him as “my dear husband.” You’ll be true daughters of Sarah if you do the same, unanxious and unintimidated. (1Peter3:4-6, The Message version)
Devil will want us to feel intimidated. That our role is mundane and that there is so much more to us. Don’t listen to him. He is a liar and we all know it. Look where he got Eve with his lies and flatteries. God created us beautifully and wonderfully. He placed us in the centre of the home. We are the “weak” cord holding both sides. Have you ever taken note of a home without a mother? A husband without his wife?
Yes, there is so much more to us. A godly woman is a salt in the home. We are strong, beautiful, intelligent, gentle, kind and gracious. All these attributes make us perfect for our role. Being a home keeper is not the shorter end of the stick. It is a place of Honour and love. A place where we are called blessed.
Yes, we cook, we clean, we wipe tears and mend wounds, we go to markets and sometimes bring in the proceeds from our ventures; and yes, we do get so tired and worn almost to the point of crying sometimes, but it is not out of compulsion, but because we are doing our parts for the efficient running of our home. We are doing our bits to make our home a haven for the weary.
And our godly husbands work from dawn to dusk, “tilling the ground” to make sure that we are cared for, provided for and totally loved.
This is the structure God put in place and it is perfect.
Devil will have you believe that “toiling the ground” is way better than being the home keeper. Now, I am not saying that the men got the bad deal either. All I am saying is God gave them the duty plus the grace to be the provider, the leader and the protector in the home.Obviously, this does not imply that a man should not help around the house and a woman with finances, it only points us to the truth that for harmony to exist, each one has to should do his/her part.
Now, o godly woman, putting your duty as the home keeper above your career and business could mean you may not be able to afford all those luxurious cars and take all those fabulous trips, but like Paul we can say; Not that I k in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content. I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: everywhere and in all things, I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.
But also, God can bless your limited efforts and expand you beyond your own imaginations.
Because we know whom we have believed, and we are persuaded that His ways are right. And that if we give our best to His service here, we will receive a “welcome home good and faithful servant” at the end of our lives.
Our lives are living proof of the love that God has for his children.
True, we can be anything we want to be, but since we heeded the call to marriage, we decided to go all the way and do it the God-way. We are home keepers first and any other thing later. There is nothing archaic or outdated or unfair about this structure.
The word of the Lord is sure and his ways are perfect. At the initial stage, it may seem unclear but if we take time to dig deeper we will find that it is true and just and perfect.