Defining Your Limit
The It may seem strange when you hear the word limit, but humanly speaking we do have limits and they differ from person to person. But it will do you a world of good if you will just define your own limit and make your very own personal rules. It gives so much serenity and unquestionable peace of mind.
Has there ever being a time that you took time out to rest and probably have a shut-eye, but instead of doing just that, you spend half of the time worrying about tons of things that are yet undone and then you start feeling guilty for trying to rest? A lot of these times we end up abandoning the decision to rest and then we plunge right back into the work. What do you think the result is? STRESS.
Trust me, we all need time to rest. Personally, I need it to recuperate within myself; find some silence, rethink some decisions, replay some scenarios, map out a workable plan and generally to fortify myself. Sometimes I do this in prayers, reading the Bible or some other inspiring reads and there are times I just lay down and rest.
You may think you don’t need it but you do. So you don’t fizzle out and exhaust all your coping mechanisms and strategies you need to clearly define your human limit. After a long day of evangelistic work, Christ called his disciples aside to rest (although they couldn’t rest at the end of the day because the people found out where they were), but the point here is that you need rest.
It is easy to get carried away with so many tasks that need doing especially if you are a mother, and it becomes even more hectic when you are a working mum. There is just a lot to do. You multitask and yet your house still looks like you have done nothing all day long. Pretty exhausting right? I know. And that is why I have practiced setting boundaries and making my own rules and believe me, it is working.
As a new mother, it took me some time but I have come to realize the necessity of defining my own limits and setting boundaries on what to do, when to do it and most importantly when to let go; else, I might become a grouch who is always complaining and wearing a frown because she is just so stressed.
Imagine having visitors in your house; although your house is spotlessly clean, but they can’t get a profound smile of welcome out of you because you are fully and genuinely stressed out. And instead of warm conversations, everyone is watching t.v. How depressing is that?
So recently I realized that trying to read or write when my baby is awake is more stressful and less productive. She is running all over the place, both of us struggling for ownership of the laptop or phone, toppling things over and pulling the charger among several other things that makes babies so endearing 😊.
This leaves me highly stressed because I won’t get the work done and then time would have gone. So I made a rule to judiciously use her nap time for things that require due concentration and not “waste it on house chores.” When she is up and bouncing, we will do the chores together.
There is so much peace when you set your own rules and you live by it. Absolutely no pressure!
I’m going to share something quite strange. Saturday isn’t my favorite day of the week (because on Saturday I tend to work myself up about the things I couldn’t get done during the week and then I am anxious about the things I wanna do in the new week), so I made a general decision for myself not to make it harder than it already is. While most people postpone the tedious chores till Saturday, I don’t.
Truth be told, it is almost inevitable to have a Saturday free of chores but I made a personal rule to restrict it to chores that either don’t seem stressful to me or those I enjoy doing. For example, I don’t like doing laundry (Don’t be surprised🙄; I want to believe I’m not the only one), so therefore I won’t do laundry on Saturday; I don’t care if I have to wash at midnight any other day of the week, but to do washing on Saturday isn’t gonna happen.
Also, as a student in the higher institution, studying was a big deal (An unavoidable chore) and saying I won’t read on a Saturday would be setting myself up for failure. So this is what I did… I would wake up early and go to read between 5 am and 10 am. After 5hours of studying, I rationalized it in my mind that I have earned the rest of the day to do as I please. Funny right? But it worked. I go to church on Sunday, happy and relaxed and ready to face the challenge of the new week because I rested when I reached my defined limit.
No one knows you as you do. So, therefore, simplify things for yourself and make the already cumbersome life a bit easier for yourself. Define how much you can take on and how much you will take on at a moment. If you can multitask effortlessly then do it, but if you are like me and get overwhelmed easily, you might wanna stick to the “one thing after the other” principle.
Define your own limit and make your own rules and in turn, make your living simpler a bit. A lot of things are complicated and out of your control, but the things that you can control shouldn’t be running you. Set a limit and stick to it. It’s high time you stopped feeling guilty because you took a time out in the face of an undeniable pile of chores.
On this pilgrims race, there will always be stuffs to do for yourself, others and also for the Lord. Taking time out to rest is not weakness or laziness, but wisdom. Because really, the Lord loves a cheerful giver. If a minute of rest will help you do the work cheerfully, please rest and don’t let anyone make you feel remorseful about it. Define your own limit.
I believe if God gave says we can have a day to rest, then I’m going to take God by His word and do just that. Rest.
Now, your definition of rest might be different from mine. But whatever takes the edge off (Nothing Sinful please; Remember you will give an account of everything you do; even all you do in the name of rest), relives the pressure and help you reload to fulfill your God-given purpose, please do.
Don’t go around with a grimace and a scowl all because you are stretched thin. Come on…!!!! Define your own limit. How far you want to go before you take a well-deserved rest should be your decision and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. You know yourself and therefore you reserve the right to define your own limit.